Tuesday, January 15, 2008


We're home. It's so good to be home and to tuck my little guy in bed...but it is hard....so hard.

We have tentative arrangements for calling on Friday afternoon/evening and a memorial service at Gracepoint Church on Saturday morning. Burial will be next to her Pampa in Portland. We are meeting with the funeral home tomorrow at noon and will have more definite plans then.

Thank you so much for the outpouring of love you are showing us through your comments. Although, I just sit and cry each time I read them...they do provide an overwhelming sense of peace and comfort as we read them. So...though you may feel you have nothing to say or it's already been said...don't! We cherish each one...really we do! (We would really appreciate last names or hints as there are so many of you sending us your love!)

All you heart mamas out there who have petitioned prayers for Kate and us through your blogs...thank you. This is no journey that anyone can take alone...I'm so glad to have you in my life. Thank you to the followers of Isaac, Elijah, Micah and Arianna who have taken us under your wing and prayed for us. Thank you! --And serious prayers need to be headed in the way of Isaac...he goes into his 3rd surgery on Friday. Kathy and the whole fam...we love you and Kate isn't going to let anything happen to her man! He has a special angel right now!

Just a few thank yous to those who have helped us get through the day:

Grandma: for loving on Seth and being with us tonight
Nana & Oompa: for driving to Ann Arbor to help bring back a car...and for dinner...and for loving us!
Uncle Doug: for coming to Ann Arbor and being with us...and helping us move out of RMH
Karla: for your hospital expertise and comforting words
Med-Buddy Megan: for all you did for us today...Wow...what an amazing young lady you are! You were there with us all morning. You brought so much joy to Kate's life while she was in the hospital. I am so sorry your 1st experience with being a MedBuddy ended the way it did...but you are a blessing! You will be an amazing doctor some day!And if your boyfriend reads this...he better snatch you up quick!
Pastor Chuck: for jumping in your car the minute you heard....for dedicating Kate (even if it was after she was in the arms of Jesus) and for walking with us through this.
Blog Readers: for just loving on us and sharing a few encouraging words

So...exhaustion has set in...but I dread laying my head down on that pillow...knowing that then will the memories flow! But we have great memories...especially of last night with our little princess. Thank you God for giving us last night with Kate! Thank you God for giving us that day on the beach! Thank you God....for giving us Kate!!!


Anonymous said...

Oh, what a beautiful girl!
May your mind rest peacefully tonight.
Tricia Haworth
(Mary Anne is my mom. A comment put on your previous post.)

Anonymous said...

Krista and Andy,

You are in our thoughts and prayers. You know that you did everything possible for Kate. You took her to the best doctors. You devoted yourself to her care and made many family sacrifices to be able to be with her so she was not alone. You also made sure Seth had plenty of loving and care during these difficult times. There could be no better parents than you have been to Kate and Seth. We will miss her. The picture you posted is so cute! We remember Kate and Seth in their Halloween costumes when you brought them over last fall.

There is no way we can comprehend how you must feel, but we lift you up in prayer for comfort.

Lou & Shirlie

Kathy said...

I'm glad you made it home safely...and we able to hug little Seth and tuck him into bed.
I'm still crying with you...I'm glad that you're surrounded by friends and family and internet family who love you guys so much. Thanks for thinking of us in your time of grief...I'll be thinking about you all week. Save the email that I sent you and call me anytime. Thanks for being such a good friend and you are such a strong and amazing mom. I'm using you as my rock and example...
We love you Krista...
Kathy Roller
(but, you know who I am when I just write Kathy...don't you?? Isaac's mom....Vegas Rollers' (who don't gamble)...your friend that you're stuck with forever!)
I hope you get some sleep tonight.
Thanks for letting us know that you made it home.

Anonymous said...

That day on the beach is a favorite of many memories Nana and Oompa have of our dear Kate. Such a sweetie.
Love, Nana

Anonymous said...

What a great picture and perfect remembrance of a happier day in your life with dear Kate. Though you've had many days of worry & sadness over the last 18 months, you have prevailed, with God's grace. You have been Strong and Faithful and Loving and Caring and all of the positive adjectives that so many people have ascribed to you in this blog. But know this....IT IS OKAY to have days and nights when you DON'T feel strong and faithful and loving and caring. For it's only by the grace of God that a human can be any of those things under these circumstances, and He will understand when you just can't be that any more...for a time. He'll understand and continue to walk with you, and continue to pour out unending Love and Grace, for He knows how badly a broken heart hurts.

Loving you, through Him,
Steve & Marlene

Anonymous said...

Dear Krista, Andy, Seth and families
We are so saddened to hear the news. I know the precious memories you have of the special times with your Angel will make you laugh through the tears. I especially liked the picture of her foot spa. It reminded me of Nana with a group of women in a hotel in Chicago. You and your family have been such a testimony of how your love for each other and faith in God can carry you through the most difficult times. I pray that you will find a peace that passeth all understanding in the next few days and weeks ahead. We will continue to hold you up in prayer and rejoice in the fact that Precious Kate is no longer struggling. God Bless you all. Love Dave and Etta from Florida

Anonymous said...

I search for words to express my thoughts for your family. I know that Kate's smile would light up a room and that her determination is what kept her here so long.
I am glad that she is at peace. I pray that your faith will stay strong. Wrap yourselves in the the arms of love.
Give Seth a big hug. I hope that this blog will contain many good memories for your family and that Seth may one day read it to see how strong God can make you when you need to be strong.
Sending all my love and His,
Kristie Alexander (Tennessee)

Bridget said...

Dear Layman family - I got to work today and heard the news of Kate's passing, and took the liberty of finding this blog as soon as I got home. Your great faith in the God of all comfort is a powerful example to me, and I wanted to convey to you what a joy and honor it was to care for Kate and to know you during your stay in Ann Arbor. Thank you for sharing your lives with me - I will always remember the "elf yourself" application you showed me that evening - I still laugh thinking of it! I will continue to pray for you, that you know the great and transcendent love of Christ and are sustained by your knowledge of Him. Thank you again for the privilege of knowing you and your precious daughter.

Bridget Holtz

Hefner said...

Krista & Family,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Through the years I have come to know that you all are a special and loving family. I am sure that Kate is in a a wonderful place smiling down upon you all. My only regret is that I did not see her smiling face here on Earth. My most heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family.


Anonymous said...

Your little "Princess Kate" touched so many lives in her short life. What a trooper she was through it all! (I will always remember "Which Paci?"---so cute!)
And Andy & Krista, your courage & steadfast faith have been an inspiration and blessing to everyone who knows you AND those who've only known you through "The Layman Scoop". May God hold you ever so close in these days and weeks ahead. Love, Paralee

Andrea said...

I am so so sorry for the loss of your precious Kate. I had only just found your blog recently, but am amazed at your strength and faith. My son was born with DiGeorge Syndrome and a complex heart defect as well. My heart breaks for you and I pray that the peace and comfort of Christ will surround you in the coming days and months.
Andrea Himmelberger

Anonymous said...

Krista, Andy, Seth & Family,
I have only recently received your blog information, but I have prayed for Kate all along. My heart is so sad for your loss. The hole in your hearts must seem enormous right now. May God wrap his arms around you all and may you be comforted with all of the wonderful happy memories of Kate's good days and her smiling face. I wish for you peaceful, restful sleeps, knowing that she is in HIS arms. Her little smile could light up a room and I imagine the radiance in God's face as he welcomes her home. God Bless.
Jane Grabill

Melissa said...

I love that picture. I remember it being posted on her room door during her surgery in July. It brings peace today as my heart breaks for you all and for all who knew sweet Kate. She gave us smiles when we thought she was too sick to smile. She gave us "so big's" when she was so weak we didn't think she could lift her arms.

She was so blessed to have a family who devoted every day of their lives to making her life just a little bit happier. She knew how much she was loved as her face lit up when you walked in the room. No one could make her smile like you could.

You are an amazing family and your faith will sustain you during this time. Love on each other, love on Seth, rely on your family and friends because we love you! Thank you for sharing this journey with us all!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing Kate's journey. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. It is such a comfort to know that she is in a better place. I continue to pray for your peace and comfort at such a difficult time.
Gail Despain

Anonymous said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing sweet Kate with us! As the tears flow freely, I smile when I think of her 'popsicle tongue', chewing on her washcloth, laughing with Seth...You may never know how your blog has helped us to grow in our faith and unconditional love. So, in your time of profound grief, I am so grateful Kate was blessed with such amazing parents who allowed others to love her, too!:)

Samantha said...

Layman Family,
Thank you for letting us know you made it home safely. Your family has not left my mind and I continue to pray for you all. I love the beach picture and I am so happy that you have so many happy memories to hold on to. I also want to thank you for being such an amazing friend, even though we have never met, I feel that I know you so well.
Lots of love,
Samantha Major

Anonymous said...

Dear Krista and Andy,


I Just Love Kate’s Great Big Smile, the Sunshine on Her Shoulders, Kate’s Toes in the Surf, and, of course, the Granny Bonnet!

Thank you so much for sharing this portrait. To me, this picture speaks of Kate’s unique ability to “cherish the moment.”
And that’s A Great Lesson!

Love, Prayers, and Hugs, Susan

Christi Overman said...

Still praying for you...I'm a friend of Deanna Greene in Warsaw. I teach first grade and love kiddos! I can't imagine your heartbreak but I pray that God will help you understand its purpose.

Christi Overman

Anonymous said...

KK --

I hope you know that there is an umlimited supply of wet washcloths up in heaven!! Kate has her choice of colors and she can suck on one anytime she wants to!! :)

I know it's hard right now -- and it seems as if you're in a fog -- but it will get easier. Just take it slow, remember to breathe and think of all of the great, happy times you shared with your daughter.


Anonymous said...

That's such a sweet little picture. We are very sorry to hear about Kate and we are praying for your peace and comfort.
The Baileys

The Findleys said...

So many loved Kate - and we will continue to love her because we know that she lives first with her Heavenly Father and also in the hearts of all who knew her - even if only through written words and pictures. Even more, we will continue to love you - Krista, Andy, Seth - and celebrate your joys and cry in your sorrows. Praying for God's supernatural strength to get you through days and weeks to come.

Christie said...

Thank you so much for letting us know that you got home safely. It must feel good to hug Seth and tuck him into bed. I hope you were able to get some rest during the night.

What an awesome picture of Kate...soaking up the sun and wadding in God's pool. Kate has always brought joy to my life. No matter what she was going through, she always seemed to have a smile hiding somewhere. She made us laugh and she always did "So big", even when she was the weakest.

I will never forget Kate or your family. What a blessing you are to a lot of people. God brought Kate into this world for a reason and she touched so many people's lives. My prayers are with all of you.

God bless you,

Christie Summers

The Portas said...

What a precious girl. She was so lucky and so loved. She couldn't have chosen better parents than YOU.

You have been on my heart constantly and I have so much admiration for your upheld faith. Stay strong and KNOW that you are being carried by many right now, but especially by God.

Judy Davis said...

Dear Krista & Andy,
You are so special to us
and the loss of Kate makes
us very, very sad. I was quilting at Linda DuPont's
house when we got a call. I was glad to be with Linda at that time. She and Jim love you too very much.
So glad that Kate went in peace in your arms. She is now being taken care of by our Terri in Heaven. That's what I tell myself to keep the faith!
Love, love, Judy & Charlie

Anonymous said...

I am in tears all over again just reading your words. Kate was such a special little girl who touched so many lives in her short time with us. And she was so very lucky to have such wonderful loving parents to care for her. I smile thinking of her, pain free and happy, in our loving Father's arms and hanging out with her Grandpa. Although we have never met, I feel as if I know you and I thank you for sharing your journey with us. You are so very brave and amazing. May God grant you the peace and comfort you need now and always.

Love and Blessings!
Kim Tinker

Anonymous said...

My heart is broken for you. I'm thinking of you and praying for you. May your memories comfort you at this time.
Mandy Gwinnup

Anonymous said...

Love the picture of little Kate, the bathing beauty. What an amazing little girl she was--so full of joy, such an ability to light up the lives of all who came to know her, such a resilient spirit. Thank you for sharing your lives with us. You are truly an extraordinary family. We are blessed to know you.
With love and heartfelt prayers,
Carol and Dennis

Karmen said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers as you continue this journey of faith. ((HUGS)) to you in this difficult time. May God give you peace and comfort at just the exact times. There are no words that I can possibly say to comfort you, but just know that we are praying for you and for your little guy, Seth, and for your entire family to deal with this terrible loss of Baby Kate.

klingshirn said...

What a blessing your entire family has been to ours...to many families you don't even know. What a beautiful little Kate!! Lots of love and prayers being sent your way. The Klingshirns

Anonymous said...

That picture is beautiful, a glimpse of paradise here on earth, and to know that our human minds cannot grasp true Paradise, we do know that it is way better than the best here...and the smile on her face, can you just imagine it now! Beautiful girl. She was lucky enough to have lived life with no regrets, no mistakes, no baggage, just love, love, love. Thanks for sharing your baby girl with us all. Andy, I came across a picture of you and I when I was probably only about 4 years old, we were sitting on the piano bench at your parents posing for a picture and you had ahold of me just right so I would not fall off. Even as a pre-teen boy, you were gentle and caring for a little girl. Baby Kate knows that her daddy is gentle and caring and loves her very much in her short little life, Daddy's little girl. What a testimony, she always knew how much she was, is, and will be loved. Krista, you are a vision of strength and total devotion to baby Kate and your family! Even though Seth had to be away from his mommy he has no doubts that you love him. Your ability to rely on God, the Sustainer. Your family is an encouragment to me, reminds me when I am frustrated with the boys that life is short and we need to show our kids we love them and not be so uptight! Prayers for continued strength for the journey.

Prayers from Georgia,


LeeAnne said...

Andy, Krista and Seth,

We love you and pray that God will wrap his arms around you and give you comfort, peace and rest during this time.

You had a wonderful opportunity to love an angel even though it was only for a short time. You did a wonderful job of that!

I'm sure she's having fun with her Grandpa now and they are laughing together in Heaven.

We love you.
Gene, LeeAnne & Lynzi

Anonymous said...

Wow - what a testimony you have. Thank you for sharing your heart with us all these months! What a blessing your family is!

Anonymous said...

Love the picture of Kate at the beach.
Thanks for thinking of us out here in cyberland and keeping us in the loop - I know you are awfully busy buying Walmart out of kleenex!

In our prayers,
Jan l.

Anonymous said...

Krista, Andy, Seth, Ted, Judy, & Cathy,
Take care and God bless. See uou Friday.

Love and hugs,
Art & Reen

Anonymous said...

Even though my sister just shared your story with me, and I just began looking at your blog on Monday morning...I am thankful to have heard your story and will continue to keep your family in my prayers during this time. I had a friend at school die young just a year ago, and a prof. said to me that "whether we live 20 or 90 years, God created all of us to live eternally." I know that is a comfort to me, but I hope it can be for you also.
My sister said she didn't understand why Kate went through all of this, and her son, (who also has heart problems) is doing so well. I couldn't answer her question because only God knows this, but I do know that Kate is home in the arms of her Heavenly Father, experiencing not pain, but joy and comfort!

Emily Norman
Romeo, MI

Anonymous said...

What a courageous and loving family you are. Neither mind, heart or soul will allow us to feel the intensity of your pain but our prayer for you is this:

When sorrows like sea billows roll, may precious memories flood your soul. All through each night and every day, may peace like a river attend your way.

Bob and Nina
Grace Point

Anonymous said...

I can't stop looking at Kate's picture. Her smile just lifts me up. I spent yesterday at home with Lucas. He said two things I wanted to share. First, as I was wiping my tears for the 4th or 5th time he said "Mommy, kids aren't as sad when people die because we know how much fun heaven is right?" then of course proceeded to tell me about all the things he can't wait to do when he gets to heaven like ride the biggest waterslide ever. And then..."I thought only old people die but I guess God wants kids there too so it's not so boring." The thoughts of a 5 year old....

We're here for you to do anything you need whenever you need it. Amy

Anonymous said...

Love and tears from Maine. Glad to see you blog page. You certainly have surrounded yourselves with good people.xoxoxoxRichard & Christine

Anonymous said...

I woke in the middle of the night and I'm sure Kate was dancing and singing with Jesus. You all are such a wonderful example of the love we are all to have for each other and I thank you for sharing your thoughts. What a wonderful family - please give Seth an extra hug from me. love, Jane Wells

Anonymous said...

Dear Krista and Andy,
What a beautiful daughter you had. I just heard of her passing from a 22q support group. Please know you and your family will be in out prayers. My son also 22q and TOF. God bless you!
Diane in Florida

Mary Davis said...

Hi I am a member or the vcfs yahoo support group. My son Andrew has digeorge. I am so sorry about your beautiful little girl. I will keep you all in my prayers. Good luck and try to stay strong. God is carrying you all now.
Mary mom to,
Andrew 6 digeorge
Ethan 3 non

Anonymous said...

Krista, Andy, and Seth-

Words cannot express the heartache we are feeling for your family. We hope that you will continue to find peace in knowing that Kate is in a better place and can have all the ice cream she wants! Our thoughts and prayers will be with you in the coming days and weeks.

Jana, Kendall, Zachary Piotter & family

Anonymous said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with each of you. Jesus knocked at the door of Kate's heart. Not only did she let him in, but she went home with him. She knew there was no better place to be than in the arms of Jesus. Always remember, Yes, Jesus Loves You, the Bible tells you so. Eldon and Sylvia

Anonymous said...

How wonderfuful it is to see how many people loved Kate and how your blog has touched so many people. Krista- You are an amazing person. I can remember going to the hostipal the first day Kate was born and seeing how happy and proud you were of your precious little girl. I remember Kate coming to the lake and playing with her cups with her feet while laying on a blanket in the yard. I remember her 1st birthday party and her wonderful laugh after every bite of cake she took. I remember the prayers of Elijah asking the Lord to "make Kate better". I remember how she was so happy to show us "how big is kate" when asked. And these are the memories of Kate I treasure and will never forget.
I love You!
Uncle Doug

Anonymous said...

Andy,Krista,Seth, Cathy and family,
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with all
of us.I checked many times a day to see how"our
Kate" was doing.Your faith is an example to all and I
know you have helped many to people to know our
Heavenly Father better and closer.You are all loved
and I know that you are all wrapped in the wonderful
arms of God.I believe that Grandpa and Kate are
playing the "which paci"game.Larry would love it.I
wonder if Kate has found the candies that Grandpa
keeps in his pockets for all of the little ones.
I go to sleep praying for all of you and I wake up
praying for all of you!
Love and warm thoughts on this cold day.
Marilyn from Portland